Wednesday, 29 October 2008

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    One Kind Favor
    By B.B. King
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    The Future

      I just got in from my volunteer time at Hoops and Miss A's school. I work the language arts center for the second grade teacher.  They are having class elections and our center was to write about: If I was The President.  Now these are 7 and 8 year old kids and this is an election year that has become a very heated and emotional election for many people.

      The children have been hearing the TV, the radio, and their parents talking about the candidates and the propositions.  Miss A was watching the world series with us and a commercial came on about prop. 8. She shook her head and said. "Mom, why can't they make up their minds?"

      "Why can't they make up their minds about what honey?"

      "Well...first they say yes on 8 and then they say no on 8. Why can't they make up their minds?"

      "Who?"

      "The TV!"

      I spoke to her about elections and voting as we have through out this election year and the roll that the TV media plays.  She understood it to a small point, but we move on from this one until the next question comes up and we begin again.

      Today in her second grade class I was helping brainstorm with the students at my language center what they could write about to express what they would do if they were the President of the United States of America.

      "What would you do," I asked?  Would you want to help people find jobs who had none?  How would you do that?  One child said he'd give everybody a job.     

      "Simple,"  he stated. 

      "Well you have to have jobs to give people jobs, so would you create jobs for these people?  How would you do that?"  We were discussing these things and I heard the children at the art center with no parent helper, in a heated discussion about McCain and Obama.  They had brought their parents opinions to class. Now both the children are great kids.  They were at this moment very upset, because if they agreed with each other, they wouldn't be agreeing with one of their parents.

      "My mother said that Obama kills babies!"

      "Well my dad said McCain is crazy!"

      I wanted to slap both their parents.  These children were close to tears and I could feel my heart going out to both of them.  They are 7 and 8 year old children.  I looked toward the teacher who was in the middle of reading with her center and she gave me a concerned questioning look.  I excused myself from my center and walked over to the children and calmly told them that they were at the art center and I would appreciate it if they could stop talking adult politics since neither one of them were old enough to vote and they had a few years to figure out how they felt about how the country should be run. 

      "When you get to my center well talk a bit more, but for now I'm going to request that this conversation that is clearly upsetting you, come to a stop."

      Thank goodness these kids know and respect me, because they wiped their eyes and got back to making their election buttons for the class election.  When they got to my center I made a bit of a speech about the election to help ease the tension and to teach the small lesson that even us adults tend to forget.

      "I want to thank you for being so good about stopping your argument about the candidates for our Presidential election that is coming up.  I know you have heard many things in your home about how your parents feel about this election and the men running for President.  There is a reason that you can not vote for a President until you're older, because first you need to learn more about how your nation and the world works.  You kids say the U.S.A. and I hope you have learned that that stands for The United States of America.  United means we come together for the good of all the people. I want you kids to know that when the elections are going on, we adults each have our own idea about who should run our country.  Both of the candidates are human men.  They don't believe the same things but they never would have gotten to where they are unless many people believed in their ideas.  What you may not understand is that after the election our country is still The United States of America and we can come together to keep making it a great place to be.  No matter who our President is, you kids can get along and work together to make your school a wonderful place to be. That's really your job for now."

      I could hear the sighs of relief from these children.  They are children who are in a time that is so full of stress and anger and they pick it up from their adults and take it so seriously. They bring it to school. They want their parents to just be happy again.  I don't really know what to say beyond this, but if you know a child go hug them. If you're talking about the election with them in the room or to them directly, please remember that you too are part of The United States of America and these children are the future.  Let them have their childhood. The world will confuse them enough later and by then, if "we the people" are lucky, they'll have something to offer other than anger toward each other.

Comments (26)

  • Adamission12

    At this point I think I might cast a vote for one of these kids over either candidate... The one I wish couldve made the Republican nomination was Huckabee but oh well... I like how you emphasized United... I definitely try to abstain from discussing politics in front of kids as they obviously have no choice in the subject matter... But I hear what you are saying...

  • Jaynebug
  • an_OM_aly

    good point for adults too.  i think politics help keep us divided on purpose, so it's more difficult for we the people to stand united.  why can't happiness be as catching as stress?  or more so.  here's to hope!

  • Jaynebug
  • Norcani

    Sometimes, we adults, learn from the mouth of a child. But you are right, at the moment, we let kids enjoy their time (not in things politics, though).

  • Jaynebug

    @Norcani - Their time in childhood is so important as they learn to cooperate, before they learn to debate.

  • mag_1

    "They want their parents to just be happy again."    what a hefty goal for a little one ( was it not all of our goals )     the anger & division is strong now   in my day (childhood) i remember when JFK was running   back then a Catholic was as an alien   &  then his death  as well the death of MLK was especially memorible   i feared the riots that ensued    we listened on the radio as we drove in my grandfather's big Bonneville coming home from church    even tho i was safe in the care of my parents or grandparents living for these times in the crevice of a deep SW Virginia county   i was fearful "it " was coming there  i did not know what "it ' was but "it" did not feel good to me & i had sense to know the adults were shaken    the kids today have a lot on them  i hoped "it" would go away with time  but "it" has morphed into something more sophisticated & is every where  one looks or listens   good work   love beck

  • Rivenrock

    Nicely Said....


    United We Stand.....


    Divided we fall.

  • Jaynebug

    @mag_1 - I remember that time too. My parents speaking in hushed tones. There wasn't so much coming from all directions though. Just Walter on the news. You leave me as usual with plenty to think about. (pats heart)


    @Rivenrock - Thank you.

  • Bricker59

    I think Americans would be a lot less stressed if their election process didn't take 87 months!!


    Childhood for Children....that's a slogan I would vote for.


    Good post.

  • Jaynebug

    @Bricker59 - Thanks Brickerman. That slogan gets my vote too.  87 loooooooooong anger building, mud slinging months!

  • storyslut

    I enjoyed reading this!


    @Bricker59 - Amen to both.

  • Jaynebug
  • portiajules

    I know...I AM SOOOOO SICK OF IT GIRL....and the fact that parents talk like that around their kids drives me nuts...Love ya

  • Jaynebug

    @portiajules - And we let them vote? Love ya back.

  • MooncatBlue

    I am so glad this is almost over. I want to slap those kiddo's parent's too. No, that really breaks my heart. Another excellent read. 

  • Jaynebug

    @MooncatBlue - Thank you Blue. "Are we there yet?" I feel like the kid stuck in the car for the longest drive through ugly territory.

  • turningreen

    Brilliant.  I hear so many young children saying things that they clearly have heard their parents say on topics that are just plain inappropriate for kids.  I even walked out of my house one day to hear a 6 year old neighbor respond to the distant sound of a siren with a shout of "I smell bacon!"  Can you imagine teaching your kids to have that level of disrespect for the police at the age of 6?  Your school is lucky to have a volunteer like you, who can roll up her sleeves and really influence these kids positively.  

  • NightlyDreams

    i'm glad you did what you did.  this election is hard enough on adults having to choose much less for the kids.  parents should keep all this "crap" away from them. 

  • Jaynebug

    @turningreen - Thank you and I take my role as a contact with these children seriously. The teachers have to hold their tongues due to their positions, but as a parent I welcome a call from a parent who'd have a problem with my words. I'm not looking for a fight and I am a calm communicator when it comes to uptight angry people. I don't go to the level they feel comfortable, so they tend to be thrown off guard and listen to what I'm saying over being defensive. I also have a bit of age and experience that some of the young parents are just trying to figure it out and could use some guidance. We're all here to be of service to each other. That's where the United comes in.


    @NightlyDreams - Thank you. It is hard enough. and we might make better choices if we weren't slinging the mud in our children's direction.

  • love_smile_laugh_live

    Well, I'm not really one to talk seeing as though I am not old enough to vote, but I also see frequently teens my age speaking only based on what their parents believe. That's fine, as long as they have personal reasons for supporting a candidate and are able to explain them. I hate when their 'opinions' are based on who is "Muslim" and who is "like 100 years old". Please, get the facts straight before you make an idiot out of yourself. My parents' views are polar to mine, yet I can accurately talk your ear off about why I support the candidate that I do.


    When 6 and 7 year olds start quoting their parents' political views, there's a problem. These are inappropriate topics for children to hear, and I'm shocked parents would expose their kids to this.

  • Jaynebug

    @love_smile_laugh_live - You and I both. I do talk to my children about a society that is open for everyone to have their opinion, but the mud slinging is not okay!

  • slmret

    Thank you for this post -- and thank goodness that we have only 5 more days of this election stuff.  It seems that it's getting worse every time.  I was talking with a college kid yesterday, who commented that he didn't like election time "because of what it does to people."  He cited an example of a friend who stopped talking to him because he didn't share her political views, so we talked about other ways to deal with differing views. 

  • Jaynebug

    @slmret - Good for you and thank you. I had hoped this would give a few more people food for thought, but some regulars didn't even read it. Oh well...back to the writing board.

  • portiajules

    Hey I LOVE your new photo!!

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