October 28, 2012
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Storms of Calm
Last night I was in the middle of a busy, fast paced energy of a job. It really doesn't matter what I was doing or who I was with because it's been happening a lot of late. I was however observed as the quick moving orders flew around me.
"You are so calm," I was told.
I smiled and nodded.
"How do you do that?," she asked.
I decided this summer when I got so sick and still had to work all my many jobs that my choice to get wound up or to take things personally when they were coming from someone who was obviously uptight, or high strung, or maybe just feeling stressed was not going to work for me.
So how do I stay calm when there's a storm around me? If I tell you, you have to try it okay? I'd like it to become a movement toward a better future. May it appear in your town soon.
Here's the thing. Calm is a choice. When someone throws their static energy my way, I pause. I wait and let it hang in the air. I can almost see it swirling over my head like bees or dark clouds. I smile at it from inside my head. (does that make sense?) Hm...well anyway I smile at it and let it pass by. It's not my stress until I gather it up and claim it, so I just don't claim it. Then I respond with a comment that leaves me free to take care of the situation without carrying the nervous energy on to the solution. It has worked successfully and it builds my confidence in being the calm every time it happens now.
When the storms hit you with their static, STOP. Wait, then smile inside and let it break up. You are the answer to a crazy world when you become the calm in the storm and it will pass.
You can change the storms into light breezes in a few small steps. You know what? I know you can do it. The rest is up to you know who.
(pats heart, and points to you)
Comments (34)
this is wonderful. love the photo too.
@promisesunshine -
May your day find its calm.
as i was reading this, all you know what was breaking loose in my home. uninvolved. unperturbed. and it all settled down without me. imagine.
@promisesunshine -I just love it when a storm moves beyond me. Good for you.
I am going to have to remember this at work. Storms build up quickly there, and it doesn't pay to get tangled up in them.
@songoftheheart - That's right, sista! I tell myself "It's not about me"
Damned good advice dear friend.
Now go fishing!
I hope your storms are fewer to deal with, and the calm a little calmer. I've missed your words of wisdom!
@Bricker59 - It's a perfect day (75 degrees) to throw in the a line, but the fish are not biting, so I'll wait as I do so well now. :) Yours in crazy broad-dom. heeheehee
@slmret - Seems I'm the bridge to calm for many people in my life. I feel calmer accepting the challenge and then carrying it out calmly. (grin, wink wink)
Great advice! It takes a conscious effort to not allow somebody else's stress become your own. I will remember this post next time I'm in a stressful situation.
@saintvi - I remember when I first started to meditate, the woman I was sitting with told me to let the noisey stuff in my head be like passing clouds. I focused on each cloud for a while. "There is goes", I'd say to myself. So now I was counting the clouds instead of letting them go with no attention given. I use that idea in the calming factor. Hugs and rest to you.
Good advice :) I'm generally very calm as well, but when I'm tired my patience wears thin and it gets way more difficult!
@Jaynebug - It is not catching you need to do....It is fishing. Think, you understand me, you understand this.
Stay strong my dear friend.
@XtremePsionic - I hear you. That's when we need our calm the most.
@Bricker59 - I do.
@Jaynebug - It seems that calm people are often also the bridge to calm -- glad you can accept that challenge and remain calm yourself!
Surely words of wisdom! I try to remain calm - your analogy is spot on!
THIS IS SO TRUE, ON THE REAL....I MYSELF HAVE FOUND A NICHE'....MODERATION OR LESS....IF IT IS BECOMING A PROBLEM, OR POTENTIAL PROBLEM....I LOOK AT IT WITH THE THOUGHT...IF IT IS IN THE NEGATIVE, THEN I GO BEYOND MODERATION...THEN, IT TOO, WILL CONSUME MY POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND WELL BEING...SO, I HAVE LEARNED, PERSONAL EXPERIENCE , AS WELL AS OTHERS PERSONAL EXPERIENCE'S, SINCE I WAS ROUGHLY 13...NOW I'M 41, IT SEEMS ALL TOO FITTING TO KEEP " MODERATTION, OR LESS " IN OR A PART OF MY LIFE....I'M ALSO A LIBRA, 10/07/71...BEING A LIBRA IS KEEPING LIFE, THOUGHTS, AND THE WAY " I " PERSEVE LIFE, AS YOU SAID...SOMEONE CAME INTO THE STORE YOU WORKED AT...HAD LOTS OF NEGATIVITY AND MAY HAVE NOT REALIZED THAT THEY SAID WHAT WAS SAID, IN A NEGATIVE WAY OR PERCEPTION...HAPPENS ALL TOO, OFTEN...TWO STORMS WILL BRING ON A TSUNAMI, ANY DAY...AS I HAVE SAID, AS " I " HAVE LEARNED...TO TAKE IT PERSONALLY, IT IS HOW IT IS PERSEVED AND THEN TRANSEVED...THE WAY IT IS TAKEN, AND THEN GIVEN BACK..THERE IS NO RIGHT, NOR WRONG...IT IS LIFE'S ROLLER COASTER, THAT IS ALWAYS IN FLUX....IF YOU ARE AROUND NEGATIVE A LOT, MOST LIKELY YOU WILL BE NEGATIVE....IF AROUND NEGATIVE AND HAVE ENOUGH POSITIVE AROUND YOU....THAT IS MODERATION, " TO TAKE ALL IN MODERATION ", IS TO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE CONSUMED BY NEGATIVITY....AT 13 I GOT TOLD BY MY FIRST JOB WITH A PAYCHECK..." WHEN YOU COME INTO WORK, HANG UP YOUR JACKET...ALSO, HANG UP YOUR PERSONAL FEELINGS, LIFESTYLE, AND ATTITUDE WITH YOUR JACKET....WHEN YOU PUNCH IN FOR WORK, THAT IS WHAT YOUR HERE FOR..YOU MAY NOT LIKE THE ONE OR ONE'S YOU WORK WITH OR FOR....YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO WORK WITH OTHERS', EVEN WHEN YOU MAY NOT LIKE THEM...FOR ONE REASON OR ANOTHER....TO WORK TOGETHER IS JUST THAT, GETTING THE JOB DONE AND BEING SATISFIED THAT THE CUSTOMERS WILL COME BACK...AGAIN, AND AGAIN "....JUST SOME OF WHAT I HAVE LEARNED, AND IMPLEMENTED IN MY LIFE AND LIFE STYLE....AWSOME POSTS....DJ-MAINE....
So true and as always always good advice and hugs your way.
a cool breeze on a lovely evening....so welcome! :)
XXXOOO
Remember: This,too,shall pass.
It's my inner calming mantra
I'm all in! You told me YEARS ago to pause, take 4 deep breaths. It works when I use it!!! The revolution is ON IN THE NW SISTER!!
@dstevej - This was a post on its own. Thanks for sharing your thought and prespective. I know we each have a road filled with journey to travel and learn how to make things better for ourselves and the WHOLE! Small things make big change possible. (pats heart, and points to you)
@murisopsis - Right on, Val. Was that you?
I think I've seen you riding pass the clouds a few times. :)
@Grannys_Place - Hugs right back "atcha"!
@Tempguestbrief - Hey you! Always happy to send the flow your way. We breathe in, breathe out and let the rest find its way from love and respect. It's spelled C A L M.
@Want2FitIn2Fat2Fit - You can physically wipe it off too. (The build up of other storms) Wipe it off your arms and head, roll it up in a ball and blow it away like a blesiing or at times drop kick it out of the park. :)
@clayrek - I've been a student for a long time, Bear. Thanks for being such a fantastic support. Onward we flow, into the know. Love YOU better!
@SandraErickson -
YOU!
I can do this! In fact I do this quite often but not every time the air gets charged, it's so easy to get sucked into the vortex and so difficult to get out...thanks Mornin Glorie ~ ilym
@mlbncsga - I continue to write about it to keep myself out of the vortex. :) Hugs to YOU!
calm in the storm is stoicism and courage .
Love
Michel
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