March 3, 2014
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We're all just passing through. DJayne Spencer 3/2/1921-3/1/2014
Just 10 minutes shy of your 93rd birthday, Mom. You left this earthly place to "what's next." Thank you for the long phone calls where we jumped from thought to thought and you kept up with me and I kept up with you. We covered more ground via telephone back then before the dementia stole you from me. You are among those you missed so much and I feel comfort in that thought. Soar above us, though us, in our hearts and around our souls. Love reaches beyond our sight. Always a part of me and I thank you, sweet Jaynebug for all you shared, challenged, & questioned in me.
This was my post on Facebook today. I have written on Xanga about the dementia and many of you have been so supportive, so I thought I'd share her passing with you. Those who are friends with me on Facebook, I thank you for the love and kind support, & prayers.
One of my sisters has joined me for the next few days. We'll walk on the beach and remember our childhood and start to sort though some of our confusion having a mother who raised us to be individuals in a cookie cutter world, and in her last years was not truly present. Grief is a process and so we begin the journey. We'll let the dementia times wash away and let the time before that long struggle come back to our hearts to help us heal. Love was always present and will shine through.
(pats heart, and points to my family)
Comments (26)
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you had so many good phone calls and times with her before. Praying for peace and comfort. <3
Thank you Yes, I find peace and comfort when I sit quietly. Your prayers are appreciated, and felt!
My condolences to you and your family, so sorry.
Thank you. I know this reply is late in coming. Just finding my way back to the surface.
Sending Hugs and Peaceful wishes here also...you two favor quite a bit, aren't you so lucky! ((((<3))))
Sending Hugs and Peaceful wishes here also...you two favor quite a bit, aren't you so lucky! ((((HUGGS))))
She was quite the lady and she had such fine style. We shared a love of the human spirit and I will miss those conversations the most.
I do remember your train rides to visit with her even though she was not always able to remember. Hugs to you. That you have so many good memories is a wonderful legacy for her. Peace always.
So many times to remember and treasure. Thank you.
my mom is 88yrs old so I will be doing the same one day on Xanga.
I'm sorry for your loss and at least we had them for a long time.
Thank you Jill. Yes, she lasted longer than she ever wanted. She's part of all that is now and I can feel her when I'm quiet.
I'm sorry. It's good you have happy memories of earlier days. Sending prayers for you.
Many memories to hold in my heart. Thank you.
Oh, Lyne -- I'm sorry! I know you are going through many mixed emotions at this point -- sadness, relief, grief, and so forth -- just know that it will all even out and you will put your mom in the loving perspective she deserves.
Love, and sadness, and (((hugs))), and harmony to you :-)
Janet
She's in that perspective now Janet. Blessings to you!
Oh, and I assume she died in 2014 (check your post title!)!
I know how you must feel with this loss. I echo Janet's feelings... but Lyne, we can say all the nicest and the kindest words, only your heart can know what gives you peace and love and the life of memories, that you now have of your mother. Blessings to you dear heart.
Thank you Z! So true. My heart is speaking a lot to me lately, so I'm a bit quiet these days, so I can hear. (pats heart)
I am so sorry for your loss, Lyne... This is a beautiful tribute. I know the memories of those conversations and many other things will help bring you comfort at this sad time. Dementia is a terrible thing that takes bits of our loved ones before they truly leave us. I'm sending you loving thoughts and wishing you peace
Thank you. I've been off the radar with memorial for mom, and lots of event and gardening work. The layers from protecting my heart are lifting, so healing continues, and my deep love can return.
I’m very sorry for your loss.
Thank you. It was time and she's free now. No more dementia.
my sister was in Ireland last fall?
anyway all our relatives are Troy's in the town of Shannon.
She said every other patron in the little Pub was a relative of ours.LOL
Now that's a close family community. :)
I am sad to have missed this post . But I express my sympathy,Lyne
Love
Michel
Thank you Michel. She's free now, and we're beginning to heal.